and I’m fiercely dedicated to helping Queer+ humans confidently live & love authentically.

Hi I’m Alex,

he/she/they

I used to be the most insecure person you ever met.

Everything I did felt like an attempt to live up to other people’s standards.

Growing up evangelical Christian taught me that who I am is not lovable.

Like many people, I thought “It’s probably because of my body. If I just get really fit, then I will feel confident.”

And I quickly became attached to boyfriends who didn’t put the same level of love, care, or effort into the relationship.

By 2017 I had a perfect 6-pack, a hot rich boyfriend, worked a salaried job in tech, ran my own business, was THE gay socialite of my town and felt endlessly empty.

In October that year, I hit rock bottom in my depression and I attempted suicide.

The problem wasn’t my body.

The emptiness wasn’t fixable through any amount of hustle.

The void couldn’t be filled by any relationship.

And it wasn’t because I was gay.

My entire life I had believed

I am not enough.

Growing up in a conservative, legalistic, religious environment taught me that who I am as a gay, queer, genderfluid human is not lovable.

Until that turning point, I had been drowning myself in school, in work, in fitness, ANYTHING to appear worthy of love.

And ultimately, worthy of self-love.

Through coaching, therapy, reading, and listening to countless speakers, I finally learned how to appreciate my authentic self.

And I want you to have the same thing. But with far less time and effort.

That’s why I do what I do.

Besides my personal experience, I bring a lot to the table as your coach.

Internationally certified through ICF (International Coaching Federation).

Additional trainings on anxiety, depression, CBT, DBT, and ACT.

Trained medium. Tarot reader.

Porn writer, and on-set coach.

Relationship & Intimacy Work

I’ve worked with drag queens, porn stars, and your next door neighbor on topics like:

  • Dating

  • Polyamory

  • Open-relationships

  • Throuples

  • Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM)

  • Codependency

  • Attachment style

  • Coming out

  • Gender identity/expression

  • Transitioning

  • Exploring kink

  • and more

Through working together you’ll find the confidence to

stop self-abandoning

quit your crappy dating habits

find a satisfying relationship that fits you perfectly and lasts

& get your true desires met (no settling for less)