Coaching

for individuals or partners

Coaching is

a tool to help you become more authentic in & out of the bedroom.

You’ll gain the confidence to have your own back, and to be your true authentic self all of the time (even when it’s uncomfortable).

I work with two different approaches:
talk only, and hands on.

Talk only has many similarities to talk therapy.
We discuss what’s going on in your life (sex, relationships, friendships, work, etc.) and we’ll practice tools you can use to boost your confidence and be more authentic.

Unlike traditional talk therapy, I also use somatic tools, visualizations, and mediumship (if you’re open to it).

talk only

  • Talk only coaching is available online and can be done from anywhere in the world.

    I’m a great listener and genuinely love listening to people’s stories. My clients describe our sessions as comforting like a warm hug. They consistently leave sessions feeling like a heavy burden is lifted.

    I’m also quite sassy. I’ve got a very expressive face, and I will dick slap you (metaphorically and only with consent of course) when you’re being ridiculous.

    Our sessions will likely consist of laughter, tears, and sighs of relief. And you will always leave feeling dramatically more empowered.

    I’ve worked with everyone from everyday people to drag queens and porn stars, as well as fellow coaches and therapists.

    A little more about what you can expect…

    Somatic work, inner child work, visualizations (simiar to hypnosis), DBT, ACT, and CBT skills, mediumship, and naughty metaphors.

    Speaking of metaphors, here are some of the ones you’ll learn:

    Role Play - Learning how to effectively use your inner characters like your inner child, your inner parent and your inner cunty cigarette smokin Brooklyn hooker who doesn't take shit from no one.

    Edging - Drawing out processes on purpose, so that when it comes to you it reallllllly comes to you 🌋 (it’s how I wrote my 109 page workbook in 9 hours). It’s the superpower side of procrastination.

    BDSM - Playing with the sensations and power dynamics of your anxiety, fear, shame, and discomfort.

    …plus so many more.

    The logistics…

    We meet on Zoom and all sessions are 50 minutes.

    Everything we discuss in our sessions is confidential between you and I, with only 2 exceptions: if I’m concerned that you might harm yourself or someone else, or in the event of a court order.

    You can bring up anything you want in a session. If you want to explore more about sex and your kinks I’m comfortable going there, if you have trauma from the past, it doesn’t scare me. I’m trained to look out for the line between therapy and coaching. And if something comes up that would be more appropriate for therapy, I’m happy to help you get connected with a licensed therapist for support.

    Coaching is a 3 month commitment and costs $2,200. It’s enough time for us to complete your goals or make significant progress. And it’s not sooo much time that we lose sight of why you came to coaching in the first place.

    If that doesn’t fit your budget right now, you can schedule a one-off coaching session with flexible pricing here.

Hands on ranges from verbally guided self-touch to sex surrogacy, and can be done online or in-person.

The goal is not sexual stimulation (though that may happen), but rather to overcome physical, mental, and emotional obstacles around sex and intimacy.

hands on

  • Hands on work can be done online or in-person.

    Online we can work through the sensations and emotions that come up as you touch yourself or a partner.

    In-person we can use self-touch, cuddling, one way erotic touch, or touch with a partner.

    Hands on is the most direct approach to practicing consent and intimacy.

    It’s also effective for working on erectile disfunction, exploring your kinks, and learning edging.

    A little side note you might find interesting about my experience: I’ve worked with porn stars on set with Himeros TV.

    In this case, touching was exclusively with their scene partners and I was there to verbally guide them.

    If you have a partner(s) we can work together the same way.

Here’s what my clients have to say…

Alex helped me build the courage to be who I truly am and to discover what I really want. I can't thank him enough for giving me the permission I needed to finally be me.
Brian
I would leave sessions with previous coaches feeling small. With Alex, I felt incredibly enlightened and EMPOWERED by who I am. I now have invaluable tools that I use daily.
Keila
Coach Alex was able to unlock emotions and issues within me that I wasn't even aware of. He's a down to earth, no judgement guy that makes you feel comfortable.
MaShawn

Alex has made such a difference to my overall mental health. If you're looking for a FABULOUS person to be in your corner, cheer you on and offer amazing solutions to your problems, then you've found them!

It was a delight to collaborate with Coach Alex on our Himeros TV shoot. His passion and joy were infectious - and his wisdom elevated the project to new heights!

To get started, schedule our ‘first date.’

Just like a date, we’ll get to know each other and make sure this is a good fit.