Are You on the Edge of Divorce,
But Want to Stay Together?
It feels like you’ve been carrying the weight of your relationship for years. You’ve spent countless hours trying to "fix" things, offering support, and walking on eggshells to avoid conflict. But now, you’re tired—fed up, really—and wondering how much more you can take.
You love your partner. You want this relationship to work, but something has to change.
Relationship Coaching for Gay Couples
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You Deserve to Be Heard
You’ve likely found yourself giving and giving, only to feel more drained and frustrated. You’ve tried to stand up for yourself, but it always seems to backfire. Instead of being met with understanding, you’re met with defensiveness, maybe even anger.
Tell me if this sounds familiar…
You constantly try to keep the peace, even at the expense of your own needs.
When you do speak up, they accuse you of attacking or criticizing them, and it ends in a blow-up.
You're exhausted from taking care of your partner and putting their needs ahead of your own
You feel anxious about where this relationship is headed, but you don’t know how to change the dynamic.
It’s Time to Stop the Cycle and Start Healing
What if you could approach your relationship in a way that doesn’t leave you feeling powerless or frustrated? What if you could:
Stand up for yourself without feeling guilty or worrying about how your partner will react.
Stop walking on eggshells and value your own emotional needs.
Rebuild connection with your partner, or amicably end things.
This is where coaching comes in.
Coach Alex Ray
Relationship Coach
This may scare you, but I’m not set one way or anther on whether or not you stay together or break up.
I’m set on you both standing up for yourselves,
you both getting what you want and need,
and you both experiencing what it’s like to be deeply authentic with each other.
I help gays like you improve their relationship or find the right one.
Couples Coaching: Invest in Your Future, Save Thousands
Choosing to invest in couples coaching is not only an investment in your relationship but also a practical financial decision. Divorce attorneys in San Diego can cost anywhere from $10,000 to $30,000 (or more) per person, depending on the complexity of the divorce. And that doesn’t include the emotional toll on you, your partner, or your family.
Coaching, on the other hand, offers a much more affordable alternative to:
Avoid the hefty fees of divorce attorneys.
Gain the tools you need to strengthen your relationship for a fraction of the cost - OR - to separate amicably.
You and your partner can find lasting solutions through coaching, potentially saving you thousands of dollars and restoring your connection.
Couples Coaching Designed for Change
Through my tailored coaching program, I help couples like you shift your dynamic, allowing both of you to feel seen, heard, and valued. We work together to:
Understand Your Attachment Styles: Learn how anxious or avoidant behaviors may be shaping your relationship and how to break free from the patterns that keep you stuck.
Communicate Without Conflict: Develop the tools to express your needs clearly and calmly, even when emotions run high.
Set Boundaries That Strengthen Connection: Reclaim your voice and set healthy boundaries that allow you to show up fully in the relationship—without fear of conflict.
Rediscover Intimacy: Build a partnership based on mutual respect, emotional safety, and deeper emotional and sexual intimacy.
Here’s what my clients say…
| Alex helped me build the courage to be who I truly am and to discover what I really want. I can't thank him enough for giving me the permission I needed to finally be me. |
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| Brian |
| I would leave sessions with previous coaches feeling small. With Alex, I felt incredibly enlightened and EMPOWERED by who I am. I now have invaluable tools that I use daily. |
| Keila |
| Coach Alex was able to unlock emotions and issues within me that I wasn't even aware of. He's a down to earth, no judgement guy that makes you feel comfortable. |
| MaShawn |
Alex has made such a difference to my overall mental health. If you're looking for a FABULOUS person to be in your corner, and offer amazing solutions to your problems, then you've found them!
It was a delight to collaborate with Coach Alex on our Himeros TV shoot. His passion and joy were infectious - and his wisdom elevated the project to new heights!
Your Next Step
This is a turning point. The frustration you’re feeling right now is a sign that something needs to change—but it also means that you care enough to make that change.
You don’t have to do it alone. Couples coaching can provide you with the tools and support you need to rebuild your relationship on a foundation of respect, trust, and open communication.
Book a Consultation Today
Located right here in San Diego, I specialize in helping local couples transform their relationships. Let’s talk about how we can work together to turn things around. You and your partner deserve a relationship that feels fulfilling, not draining.
Fight for your relationship, or get out.
But stop fighting in it.
How long does it take?
3 months. In 3 months you’ll hardly recognize your relationship. You’ll be more confident, more authentic, more connected in and out of the bedroom.
We’ll have some sessions together as a group, and other sessions 1-on-1.
After you complete your 3 month program, you’ll have the option to continue working with me for ongoing support as needed.
Curious about pricing?
It’s $6,000 for you as a couple, or $3,000 for one of you.
That’s a hell of a lot cheaper than a divorce lawyer. And a lot happier outcome too.
To get started, schedule our ‘first date.’
Just like a date, we’ll get to know each other and make sure this is a good fit.