rekindle your connection
& find fulfilling intimacy
Do you still love each other, but feel like the spark has faded?
Maybe you’re even considering non-monogamy to fix the disconnect and bring intimacy back into your relationship.
Whether you’re already exploring an open relationship or just feeling the itch to try, I’m here to help you navigate the future of your relationship with confidence and respect.
It’s completely natural to go through these phases in long-term relationships.
Sometimes we lose touch with the excitement and intimacy that brought us together.
But if you’re questioning whether you’re still compatible or feeling uncertain about what the future holds, there’s hope.
Together, we’ll work to rebuild your emotional connection, support each other’s desires, and help you feel fulfilled inside and outside the bedroom.
let’s make it happen
Client Story
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Let me tell you the story of Marcus and Elijah. They’d been together for over a decade, and while they still loved each other, their relationship felt stuck. They had fun going out to clubs together or hosting friends, but when it came to managing the details of life—like finances—they felt more like roommates. Their sex life had slowed down, and when they did have sex, it wasn’t very exciting. Overall, they didn’t feel truly connected anymore.
Marcus felt like he could never do anything right. Anytime he brought up a concern, Elijah would shut down or blow up, leaving him feeling unheard and criticized for even trying. Elijah, on the other hand, felt like Marcus was always picking on him. He hated conflict, so he avoided talking about their problems altogether, which only made things worse.
By the time they came to me, they were on the brink of separation. “I don’t know if this can be fixed,” Elijah admitted. “But we want to try.”
We started by identifying what was really pulling them apart. It wasn’t the money fights or the lack of intimacy—those were just symptoms. The real issue was that neither of them felt safe or connected in the relationship anymore. We worked on rebuilding that foundation by helping each of them understand their own core needs and how to communicate them without fear or defensiveness.
I also challenged both of them to stand up for themselves in ways that felt scary but necessary. Marcus learned to express his needs without worrying about how Elijah might react. Elijah learned to listen without taking everything as criticism and to voice his own feelings instead of shutting down.
One day, Marcus came to a session excited but nervous. He told me he’d finally stood up for himself during an argument about their finances. Elijah had gotten upset and walked away, but instead of spiraling into anxiety, Marcus stayed calm. Later that evening, Elijah came back to him and said, “I’m sorry. I’ve been thinking about what you said, and I get it now.” For the first time in years, they had a real conversation about money without it turning into a fight.
As they practiced these new tools, something incredible happened. They started reconnecting. Their sex life came back to life, and it was more passionate than ever. They even began exploring new kinks together, things they’d both been too embarrassed to bring up before. And outside the bedroom, their relationship became a source of stability and joy instead of stress and resentment.
Today, Marcus and Elijah have found a new kind of closeness that reflects the maturity and growth of their relationship. "I feel like we’re on the same team," Marcus told me. "And I feel like I can be myself around Elijah, without walking on eggshells." Elijah added, "It’s like we’ve built a deeper connection with more trust and stability than ever before."
If you’re struggling to connect with your partner or wondering if it’s even possible, I can help. Book a consultation or keep reading to learn more about my couples coaching program.
Disclaimer: This story is a fictionalized example created to illustrate my client’s common challenges and outcomes through working with me. It is not based on a specific couple in order to protect client privacy.
Have more fulfilling intimacy and empower yourself to speak up for what you really want
My coaching is designed to help couples find a new level of connection and understanding.
You deserve to feel safe and excited to explore new possibilities, without letting jealousy or anxiety hold you back.
I can guide you to reconnect with each other while confidently exploring your options in a way that strengthens your relationship.
How coaching can help you reignite your relationship
In this program, I’ll support you in reconnecting and communicating openly. We’ll focus on:
Rekindling love and respect for each other. Find that spark again and rediscover the reasons you fell in love in the first place.
Expressing desires with confidence. Learn to share your needs honestly without fear or discomfort.
Understanding your shared (and not shared) kinks and fantasies. Learn how to communicate your desires, create a safe space for each other, and deepen your intimacy through education and exploration—whether you play together or separately.
Exploring non-monogamy with security and trust. I’ll help you handle jealousy and build a supportive framework so you can feel empowered as a couple, whether you choose to open up your relationship or not.
Reclaiming your sexual intimacy. Discover new ways to connect and bring passion back into your relationship in and out of the bedroom.
meet Alex
I know what it’s like to question the stability of a relationship, to wonder if love is enough to overcome the tension and the fear of losing each other.
I also understand the process of navigating non-monogamy and dealing with jealousy and anxiety firsthand.
There was a time when I struggled deeply with these emotions in my own relationship, but now, my partner and I have built a bond that balances autonomy and support.
We’ve learned to express our needs and hold space for each other, even as we pursue meaningful connections outside of our relationship.
As an ICF certified coach, I’ve helped couples just like you bring back connection and trust.
With a mix of somatic techniques, inner child work, and skills-based methods like DBT, ACT, and CBT, I provide a safe and structured environment where you can explore difficult topics and take tangible steps toward the fulfilling intimacy you both desire.
I’m also known for being a direct, grounded guide—someone who can offer both empathy and the occasional push you might need.
What our sessions will look like
My program is designed to bring you both back in sync through open conversations, emotional processing, and actionable steps:
Setting the Agenda: We’ll start each session by focusing on your most pressing needs, setting goals for what you want to explore.
Processing & Healing: I’ll guide you through processing any emotions, jealousy, or frustrations that arise, helping you understand what’s underneath these feelings and how they fit into your long-term goals.
Skills & Techniques for Change: We’ll work on practical tools to help you navigate challenges, including tools for managing jealousy, expressing your needs, and enhancing your connection. Techniques may include somatic work, visualizations, and communication exercises.
Personalized Action Steps: You’ll leave each session with a clear path for the week ahead, including specific steps and commitments to practice.
Our work is a balance between processing emotions and building skills. It’s about healing past patterns, while also looking forward to the vibrant, fulfilling relationship you want.
Real clients, real results
Here’s what some of my clients have to say…
Coach Alex was able to unlock emotions and issues within me that I wasn't even aware of. He's a down to earth, no judgement guy that makes you feel comfortable. |
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Deepened relationship with his partner by standing up for himself - MaShawn |
Don’t let Alex Ray’s youthful good looks fool you—in just three months of coaching, I’ve learned to confidently voice my relationship needs, explore and embrace my kinks, and open my heart in ways that feel safe and long overdue. Alex has been kind, playful, and full of deep wisdom. He’s a master at keeping you motivated and accountable. If you’re considering working with Alex, don’t wait! |
More bold in his: relationship, kinks, & emotions - Josh |
Alex is an amazing coach who will not only support and guide you in becoming more of YOU but will make you laugh and hold space for you while you cry all along the way. Hiring him has been one of the best decisions of my life. |
Redefined polyamory for herself - Victoria |
Working with Alex, we’ve resolved recurring issues in my intimate life, and now I feel more confident in my personal life too. Alex is genuinely present, caring, and dedicated to helping people improve. The tools he provided me have been invaluable. |
Ended a dead-end relationship, and found a true partner - Davis |
When I found myself in a throuple, I knew Alex would be the right person to guide us through the sometimes tricky emotional dynamics of such a relationship. Through multiple sessions, he helped us uncover the roots of the challenges we were facing, which ultimately allowed us to move forward together in a more tightly knit and loving relationship. |
From couple to loving throuple - Ross |
Alex has made such a difference to my overall mental health. If you're looking for a FABULOUS person to be in your corner, cheer you on and offer amazing solutions to your problems, then you've found them!
How long does it take?
3 months. In 3 months you’ll hardly recognize your relationship. You’ll be more confident, more connected, more authentic, sticking up for your desires in and out of the bedroom.
After you complete your 3 month program, you’ll have the option to continue working with me for ongoing support as needed.
Do we both work with you or just one of us?
Either one.
If one of you works with me we’ll meet weekly 1-on-1.
If you both work with me we’ll meet once a week 1-on-1, and monthly 2-on-1 (3 sessions 1-on-1, 1 session 2-on-1, repeat).
Curious about pricing?
I offer tiered, class-equitable, pay-what-supports-you pricing using the Green Bottle Model from Worts + Cunning.
Prices for 1-on-1 are listed here.
Prices for 2-on-1 are listed here.
Ready to re-ignite your passion?
Take the next step toward more intimacy and fulfillment in your relationship.
Book a call with me to discuss how we can work together to reignite your connection and help you explore new possibilities in your relationship.
If you don’t see a time that works, feel free to email me at alex@coachalexray.com
You deserve a partnership that feels safe, exciting, and connected. Let’s get started.