When David first came to me, he was frustrated and exhausted. After years of dating, he felt like he had nothing to show for it but a string of short-lived relationships and heartbreaks. Deep down, he was scared—scared that he would never find the partner he was looking for, scared that maybe he wasn’t good enough, and scared to risk being vulnerable.

David described a pattern: things would start out great with someone, but as soon as the relationship began to deepen, they would pull away. He’d stick around, hoping it would get better, but he always ended up hurt and disappointed. He told me, “It feels like having a relationship just isn’t in the cards for me.”

When we started working together, David was surprised to learn that he had been getting exactly what he said he wanted from relationships—but what he wanted consciously wasn’t what he truly needed deep down. Together, we uncovered David’s core relationship needs, the emotional blueprint that would make him feel fulfilled and connected. He realized he had been choosing partners who couldn’t meet those needs because he hadn’t been fully honest with himself about what he wanted.

We also worked on building David’s confidence. I helped him stand up for himself, set boundaries, and trust his instincts. He stopped overthinking every little thing and started showing up authentically, even when it felt scary. And he learned how to embrace the parts of himself he used to feel embarrassed about—including exploring kinks and talking openly about his desires.

David’s breakthrough moment came on a date with someone new. This time, he didn’t worry about saying the “right” thing or trying to be what he thought the other person wanted. He was just himself—confident, calm, and unapologetically authentic. And it worked. The connection was nearly instant, and for the first time in years, David felt safe being vulnerable.

A few months later, David told me, “I never thought I’d find this kind of love. It’s deeper, safer, and more exciting than anything I’ve ever felt before.” He and his new partner have a relationship that feels stable, empowering, and full of joy. They’re even having fun exploring kinks together, something David never thought he’d feel comfortable doing with a partner.

Does David’s story sound familiar? You’re not alone. If you’re ready to stop abandoning yourself and start finding the kind of love you’ve always wanted, book a consultation or keep reading to learn more about my singles coaching program.

Disclaimer: This story is a fictionalized example created to illustrate my client’s common challenges and outcomes through working with me. It is not based on a specific individual in order to protect client privacy.